Dr. Sherrie Campbell, PhD Psychologist and Author
on The Woodbury Report Tuesday, December 30, 2014
On today's K4HD.com radio show- The Woodbury Report, host Lon Woodbury, founder and president of Woodbury Reports, Inc. and StrugglingTeens.com spoke with his guest Dr. Sherrie Campbell, PhD, about the important roles parents have in raising their children to feel a sense of wellbeing and making a love connection with them. Sherrie also talked about the negative effects parents can have on shaming their child when disciplining. Criticizing your child is the worst thing a parent can do and can take years for them to overcome the negative feeling. Simply put- every child needs an adult who is crazy about them!
Sherrie shared 6 tips for parents on raising a goal driven child:
Show your child love- give them a sense of security and wellbeing from the beginning of life and they will be motivated to repair their sense of wellbeing when they lose it because it has already been integrated into their sense of self.
Teach self-worth- Parents have to have self-worth first- You are the model for that child to look up to. Your kids are going to do what you do- not what you say. Be supportive, involved and committed in their lives and they will develop a sense of self-worth.
Use their name- Using their name makes them feel important and of value. Use their name in a very loving way and as they leave the nest, they leave knowing who they are.
Rewards are Important- Yes! They are so important. Make sure you compliment them with a sense of celebrating them- it carries over and is a self-esteem booster. Kids want to please their parents, to make them proud. Rewards are the beginning of the development of internal motivation, creating self-starters.
Quitting, is it ok or not? - If your child gives it a go and really tries, but ends up wanting to quit, let them. Do not force them. And yet, it is not healthy to let them quit in the middle of something, they become lazy, entitled or spoiled. Children need to function in a world that can be tough, if they quit they won't be able to tolerate the uncomfortable.
Teaching responsibility- give them jobs and chores around the home, it helps them to be part of the team. It provides them a sense of accomplishment and reward. Children need to know that hard work is their way to success. They learn that to achieve their goals- responsibilities come first and leisure comes second.
In closing, Dr. Campbell advises parents to take care of themselves in order to love their kids. Parenting should inspire you to be the best you can be.
